Children and TV: My Week without Television

8 06 2007

I will be the first to admit that I have used my television as a babysitter. I would often try to get my children to sit there long enough to get dinner on the stove, to take my turn reading Arabic in the on-line class I attend,or just for a moment to myself. They would usually sit a couple minutes then be up again looking for something to do. The TV would be there for background noise.

Growing up, My family basically had 2 channels(well 3 if we could position the rabbit ears perfectly). I lived in an area that was not cable accessible. The only option was a satellite dish and my mother wasn’t keen on the idea. I spent my summers running around all day outside and would stay in Saturday for the morning cartoons. It seemed such a treat to be able to watch the cartoons every Saturday morning. So, naturally, I assumed, my kids would love to watch tv too.

So, a couple of weeks ago we were notified that our rental house has been sold. I thought we had a week to get out so I unhooked the television and packed it up to go. Well, our moving date kept changing due to maintenance issues in the new place. One day, my kids were being particularly rambunctious so I decided to hook the TV back up and try to get them to settle down for a few minutes. Well, I plugged it in and hooked the cable up. Then, I turned it on. The cable wouldn’t work. It was a blank screen. I tried everything and still couldn’t get it to work. So, I decided to have them “help me cook.” The next week was spent with no television and no DVDs. Instead of the TV more time was spent as a family unit. We spent more time playing outside together and doing crafts and other activities.

I have noticed in the past week without the television a major change in my kids. They don’t seem to fight with each other as much. Their attention spans have improved. Now, they actually can sit and focus while reading a book with no visuals or while giving them directions. Their overall mannerisms and behavior have gone a complete 180 for the better. I am pleasantly amazed.

So, it seems, in my quest to give my children everything that I thought I would have wanted as a child it has backfired. Perhaps, in doing so, I was depriving them of the one thing they really did need and want, me and more of my time and attention. Today, I was out and thought of buying a new tv. I hesitated and then walked away. I like my family better this way.

Now, don’t think I’m going on a rant saying television is evil and it’s the devil. Not at all, I realize some television in moderation can be educational for children. I am just sharing my experience of a week without television.

Abdullah ibn Umar t reported that he heard the Prophet Muhammad (saw)saying: “Every one of you is a guardian, and responsible for what is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it, and a servant is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. A man is a guardian of his father’s property and is responsible for it so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and things under your care).” (Bukhâri 3/592)

Abu Hurairah t narrated that Allah’ Messenger said, “When a man dies, accrual of merit in his favor from good deeds ceases except from three actions: 1. A charity which continues after his death; 2. Knowledge left behind from which men continue to benefit, and 3. Righteous offspring who pray for him.” (Muslim 4005)

Some cool craft websites(of course use your discretion as to picking out what is Islamic):




6 responses

8 06 2007

Salaams sis,
you made me think…I realized now how many times I asked my girls to go watch some cartoon while mom is making dinner/reading/praying/studying or what ever. Need to do something regarding that, really. But really. Thanks

8 06 2007
Spirit seeker-lost in yorkshire

I remember when me and my brothers were younger, around the age of 3-6, we only watched tv on a saturday morning or at 4-4:430pm on weekdays. that was the rule in our house and plus they were the only times that cartoons came on! hehe!
however with sky and cable and what not, children can watch tv 24hours a day and the kids control what is watched and what is not. i see this with my little cousin when i go over to visit, the cartoon channels are on even at 9pm, thats just absurd,
oh well the joys of motherhood that i still have to look forward to….

9 06 2007

Salam sis,

wow! ur entry is very enlightening…it makes me want to try to …go w/out the tv for a week…

thks sis for sharing ur experiences…. 🙂

9 06 2007

Girl, thank you for this motherly confession LOL…. I too find myself glueing the kids on that tube. Especially when I need to do something that requires my full attention. You’re right guilt usually creeps up on mom’s because sometimes we abuse Mr. Television as a babysitter. LOL I know I have…. The key is stiking the balane. Nothing in the extreme is good and our way of life as Muslims is to strike the medium and moderation. Jazak Allah khairan for the links I know I need them 😉 and u made me realize too after ur TV burnout, sometimes its not the kids who are obsessed with the television it’s moms. Hugs and great reminder 😉

12 06 2007
16 06 2007

thank you.

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