Common Mistakes Made During Ramadan

2 09 2008

Most Muslims who fast Ramadan focus on the benefits and rewards of it. But in doing so, we often make mistakes that instead of adding to our experience actually detract from it. Mistakes that can make us commercialize Ramadan as so many other religions have commercialized their sacred days. Insh’Allah the following serves as a reminder to myself first and to all Muslims. May Allah help us to spend our time wisely this Ramadan and help us to avoid these mistakes. ameen

Taking Ramadaan as a ritual
 
For many of us Ramadaan has lost its spirituality and has become more of a ritual than a form of Ibaadah. We fast from morning to night like a zombie just because everyone around us is fasting too. We forget that its a time to purify our hearts and our souls from all evil….we forget to make dua, forget to beseech Allaah to forgive us and ask Him to save us from the Fire.  Sure we stay away from food and drink but that’s about all.
 
Although the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: 
 “Jibreel said to me, ‘May Allaah rub his nose in the dust, that person to who Ramadaan comes and his sins are not forgiven,’ and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allaah rub his nose in the dust, that person who lives to see his parents grow old, one or both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (by not serving them) and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allaah rub his nose in the dust, that person in whose presence you are mentioned and he does not send blessings upon you,’ and I said, ‘Ameen.’” (Tirmidhi, Ahmad, others. Saheeh by al-Albaani)
 
Too much stress on food and drink
 
For some people, the entire month of Ramadaan revolves around food. They spend the ENTIRE day planning, cooking, shopping and thinking about only food, instead of concentrating on Salaah, Quraan and other acts of worship. All they can think of is FOOD. So much so that they turn the month of ‘fasting’ into the month of ‘feasting’. Come Iftaar time, their table is a sight to see, with the multitudes and varieties of food, sweets and drinks. They are missing the very purpose of fasting, and thus, increase in their greed and desires instead of learning to control them. It is also a kind of waste & extravagance.
 
“…..and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allaah) likes not Al-Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance) ” [al-Araaf :31]
 
Spending all day cooking
 
Some of the sisters (either by their own choice or forced by their husbands) are cooking ALL day and ALL night, so that by the end of the day, they are too tired to even pray Ishaa, let alone pray Taraweeh or Tahajjud or even read Quraan. This is the month of mercy and forgiveness. So turn off that stove and turn on your Imaan! 
 
Eating too much
 
Some people stuff themselves at Suhoor until they are ready to burst, because they think this is the way to not feel hungry during the day and some people eat at Iftaar, like there is no tomorrow, trying to ‘make up for the food missed.’ However, this is completely against the Sunnah. Moderation is the key to everything.
 
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach; for the son of Adam a few mouthfuls are sufficient to keep his back straight. If you must fill it, then one-third for food, one-third for drink and one-third for air.” (Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah.  saheeh by al-Albaani).
 
Too much food distracts a person from many deeds of obedience and worship, makes him lazy and also makes the heart heedless.
It was said to Imam Ahmad: Does a man find any softness and humility in his heart when he is full? He said, I do not think so.
 
Sleeping all day
 
Some people spend their entire day (or a major part of it) ‘sleeping away their fast’. Is this what is really required of us during this noble month? These people also are missing the purpose of fasting and are slaves to their desires of comfort and ease. They cannot ‘bear’ to be awake and face a little hunger or exert a little self-control. For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is nothing but, negligence on his part.
 
Wasting time
 
The month of Ramadaan is a precious, precious time, so much so that Allaah calls this month “Ayyamum Ma’doodaat” (A fixed number of days). Before we know it, this month of mercy and forgiveness will be over. We should try and spend every moment possible in the worship of Allaah so that we can make the most of this blessing. However, there are some of us who waste away their day playing video games, or worse still, watching TV, movies or even listening to music. Subhaan Allaah! Trying to obey Allaah by DISOBEYING him!
 
Fasting but not giving up evil
 
Some of us fast but do not give up lying, cursing, fighting, backbiting, etc. and some of us fast but do not give up cheating, stealing, dealing in haraam, buying lotto tickets, selling alcohol, fornication, etc. and all kinds of impermissible things without realizing that the purpose of fasting is to not stay away from food and drink; rather the aim behind it is to fear Allaah.
 
“O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)” [al-Baqarah 2:183] 
 
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it, and ignorance, Allaah has no need of him giving up his food and drink.” (Bukhaari)
 
Smoking
 
Smoking is forbidden in Islam whether during Ramadaan or outside of it, as it is one of al-Khabaa’ith (evil things). And this includes ALL kinds of ‘smoking material’ eg.cigars, cigarettes, pipes,’Sheesha’ , hookah etc.
“he allows them as lawful At Tayyibaat (all good and lawful things), and prohibits them as unlawful Al Khabaa’ith (all evil and unlawful things) [al-A’raaf :157]
 
 It is harmful, not only to the one smoking, but also to the ones around him. It is also a means of wasting ones wealth. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “There should be no harming or reciprocating harm.”
This is especially true during fasting and it invalidates the fast. (Fatwa -Ibn ‘Uthaymeen)
 
Skipping Suhoor
 
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Eat suhoor for in suhoor there is blessing.”(Bukhaari, Muslim).
And he (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “The thing that differentiates between our fasting and the fasting of the People of the Book is eating suhoor.” (Muslim)
 
Stopping Suhoor at ‘Imsaak’
 
Some people stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe ‘Imsaak’.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: This is a kind of bidah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite. Allaah allows us to eat until dawn: “and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)” [al-Baqarah 2:187]
 
And the Prophet (pbuh) said: “….eat and drink until you hear the adhaan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the adhaan until dawn comes.”
 
This ‘imsaak’ which some of the people do is an addition to what Allaah has prescribed, so it is false. It is a kind of extremism in religion, and the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
 “Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed.” (Muslim)
 
Not fasting if they missed Suhoor
 
Some people are too scared to fast if they miss Suhoor. However, this is a kind of cowardice and love of ease. What is the big deal if you missed a few morsels of food? It’s not like you will die. Remember, obedience to Allaah overcomes everything.
 
Saying the intention to fast ‘out loud’ or saying a specific dua to start fasting
 
The intention is an action of the heart. We should resolve in our heart that we are going to fast tomorrow. That is all we need. It is not prescribed by the Shari’ah for us to say out loud, “I intend to fast”, “I will fast tomorrow” or other phrases that have been innovated by some people. Also, there is no specific dua to be recited at the time of starting the fast in the correct Sunnah. Whatever ‘dua’ you may see on some papers or Ramadaan calendars, etc. is a Bid’ah.
 
Delaying breaking fast
 
Some people wait until the adhaan finishes or even several minutes after that, just to be ‘on the safe side’. However, the Sunnah is to hasten to break the fast, which means breaking fast whenever the adhaan starts, right after the sun has set. Aa’ishah (RA) said: This is what the Messenger of Allaah (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) used to do. (Muslim)
 
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “The people will continue to do well so long as they hasten to break the fast.” (Bukhaari, Muslim)
 
Determine to the best of your ability, the accuracy of your clock, calendar, etc. and then have tawakkul on Allaah and break your fast exactly on time.
 
Eating continuously until the time for Maghrib is up
 
Some people put so much food in their plates when breaking their fast and continue eating, enjoying dessert, drinking tea, etc., until they miss Maghrib. That is obviously not right. The Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) was that once he broke his fast with some dates, them he would hasten to the prayer. Once you are done with the prayer, you can always go back and eat some more if you wish.
 
Missing the golden chance of having your Dua accepted
 
The prayer of the fasting person is guaranteed to be accepted at the time of breaking fast.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Three prayers are not rejected: the prayer of a father, the prayer of a fasting person, and the prayer of a traveler.” (al-Bayhaqi, saheeh by al-Albaani).
 
Instead of sitting down and making Dua at this precious time, some people forego this beautiful chance, and are too busy frying samosas, talking, setting the food, filling their plates and glasses, etc. Think about it….Is food more important than the chance to have your sins forgiven or the fulfillment of your Duas.
 
Fasting but not praying
 
The fasting of one who does not pray WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED. This is because not praying constitutes kufr as the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his giving up prayer.” (Muslim)
 
In fact, NONE of his good deeds will be accepted; rather, they are all annulled.
“Whoever does not pray ‘Asr, his good deeds will be annulled.” (Bukhaari)
 
Fasting and not wearing Hijaab
 
Not wearing the Hijaab is a major sin as it is obligatory for Muslim women. (See Surah Nur, Surah Ahzaab). So fasting and not wearing hijaab certainly takes away enormously from the rewards of fasting, even if does not invalidate it.
 
Not fasting because of exams or work
 
Exams or work is NOT one of the excuses allowed by the Shariah to not fast. You can do your studying and revision at night if it is too hard to do that during the day. Also remember that pleasing and obeying Allaah is much more important than ‘good grades’. Besides, if you will fulfil your obligation to fast, even if you have to study, Allaah will make it easy for you and help you in everything you do.
“Whosoever fears Allah, He will appoint for him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect, Allah is Sufficient for whosoever puts his trust in Him.” (Surah at-Talaaq 2-3)

 
Mixing fasting and dieting
 
DO NOT make the mistake of fasting with the intention to diet. That is one of the biggest mistakes some of us make (esp. sisters). Fasting is an act of worship and can only be for the sake of Allah alone. Otherwise, mixing it with the intention of dieting may become a form of (minor) Shirk.
 
Fighting over the number of Rakaah of Taraweeh
 
There is no specific number of rak’ahs for Taraweeh prayer, rather it is permissible to do a little or a lot. Both 8 and 20 are okay. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: “No one should be denounced for praying eleven or twenty-three (raka’ah), because the matter is broader in scope than that, praise be to Allaah.”
 
Praying ONLY on the night of the 27th
 
Some people pray ONLY on the 27th to seek Lailat ul-Qadr, neglecting all other odd nights, although the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Seek Lailat ul-Qadr among the odd numbered nights of the last ten nights of Ramadaan.” (Bukhaari, Muslim).
 
Wasting the last part of Ramadaan preparing for Eid
 
Some people waste the entire last 10 days of Ramadaan preparing for Eid, shopping and frequenting malls, etc. neglecting Ibadah and Lailatul Qadr. although, the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) used to strive the hardest during the last ten days of Ramadaan in worship (Ahmad, Muslim) and not in shopping. Buy whatever you need for Eid before Ramadaan so that you can utilize the time in Ramadaan to the max.
Aa’ishah (RA) said: “When the (last) ten nights began, the Messenger of Allaah (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam)) would tighten his waist-wrapper (i.e., strive hard in worship or refrain from intimacy with his wives), stay awake at night and wake his family.” (Bukhaari and Muslim).
 
Iftaar parties
 
Although inviting each other for breaking fast is something good and encouraged, some people go to extremes with lavish ‘Iftaar parties’ with all sorts of disobedience to Allaah, from flirting, mixing of the sexes and hijaab-less women, to show-off and extravagance, to heedlessness to Salaah, and Taraweeh to even music and dancing.
*This was sent to me via email. I tried to google the source but couldn’t find one. May Allah reward whomever wrote this article with the best in this world and the Hereafter.ameen.
*If anyone knows the source please comment and let me know and insh’Allah I will add it.

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23 responses

3 09 2008
Umm Salihah

Assalam-alaikam,
excellent article mash’Allah, I found this very useful and it has given me food for thought, jazakh’Allah-khairun.

4 09 2008
sister

Assalamualaikum
Thank you for sharing this.Very good list of reminders for this month of Ramadhan.

4 09 2008
indyana

As salam alaykum! such an accurate post! I really find the cooking point happening in my life as well!

4 09 2008
Ruby

Great info. I missed fajr today and its the third fast. I feel really bad. I don’t know if my fast is even valid.

5 09 2008
Lubna Karim

Awesome article. Gr8 information.

5 09 2008
faizan

IT WAS A VERY GOOD EXPERIENCE VISITING THIS PAGG CERTAINLY SOME SUGGESTION THAT IS SOME OF DUAS TO BE GIVEN IN FULL FORM

6 09 2008
turgayevren

As salam alaykum, it was really an enlightening article on which all the muslims need to contemplate. We should utilize our time affectively in Ramadan and try to get the maximum benefits of this holy month.

A brother from Turkey: http://www.salvationwithislam.wordpress.com

6 09 2008
Imraan

Assalamu-Alaykum
I found this article when I woke up late and missed Suhoor. There was still time for Fajr prayer, But I did not know Whether my fast would be accepted. After reading your article I know to keep going with the Intention to keep fasting for the sake of Allah.
Jazak-Allah for Posting this.

6 09 2008
Very Good!

Again… another beautiful post. May Allah reward you InshaAllah. By the way this arcticle is especially important for young people to understand. We need more of these articles to help educate the younger generation today.

6 09 2008
afeefa

very good info. Though i Dunno if i totally agree with the no hijab=anulled fast part, I do wear hijaab fyi.

8 09 2008
hmm

a little extreme there. i know plenty of women who fast but dont wear hijab. dont be so judgemental. let Allah be the judge. that’s the problem with muslims these days. always quick to judge others, which essentially shuns away others from the community when they are good people as well. dont be so self righteous!

8 09 2008
Umm Yusuf

Assalaamu Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,

First, this article does NOT say not wearing the hijab invalidates or annuls the fast.

I quote:

So fasting and not wearing hijaab certainly takes away enormously from the rewards of fasting, ***even if does not invalidate it.***

This is not being self righteous. Anything we do that is disobedience to Allah takes away from the good deeds that we do. And Allah and the Prophet have mandated hijab. Although, I will not debate that. That doesn’t mean I look down on or don’t keep the ties of sisterhood with women that don’t wear hijab nor does it mean they aren’t good members of the community or don’t have faith, etc. It is between them and Allah.What you do is your choice but doesn’t change the fact that it is obligatory for Muslim women and not doing so is an act of disobedience to Allah and His Messenger.

10 09 2008
Umme Yusuf

Very nicely written! I’m glad to find your blog.

12 09 2008
dailyreminders

AA

Great article, and well replied to the last post. MashaAllah

Was

13 09 2008
Muslimah

Too judgemental, I think we should leave the judging to Allah (swt).

14 09 2008
Umm Sakina

Assalmaou alaikom

MashaAllah this addressed many problems i have seen, a good reminder, very comprehensive and helpful.
(in regards to others comments) I do feel there is a way to give naseehah and we have the Prophet’s salla lahu alayhi wa salam example for this however, there are many hadeeth about warning and advising people and the companions always did because they felt it was their duty because the Quran tells us to enjoin the good and forbid the wrong and that is what separates us from the unbelievers and all the other nations. Subhanna Allah I will never forget when I lived in a town once and encountered many Muslims who would fast the month of Ramadan, state they were proud of themselves for doing so (due to working around food or being pregnant) yet did not make salat all year or wear hijaab or appropriate male dress. This reminds me of the hadeeth the Prophet told us about the traveler who was dusty and hungry and asking for Allah’s help (making du’a) and how shall his du’a be answered when his clothing is haram, his food is haram, his earning is haram..and it goes on I know I am not quoting it right. It is unfortunate hijaab and the beard and other issues can be so …sensitive and sometimes volatile a subject, subhanna Allah our deen is clear with Quraan and Sunnah proofs! There is a balance and moderation in Islaam. We do command the good and forbid the evil but we must focus on ourselves and remove hypocracy from our daily practice, speech and hearts. We ARE judgmental and we judge by the criterian Allah gave us but there isw a fine line. Perhaps because we know we are right and true it can come across as self-righteousness and that can be be pride and arrogance. May Allah save us from arrogance. Imaam al-Barbahaaree said:
“Do not bear witness for any of the people of Islaam (i.e. that he is a person of Paradise or of the Fire) due to a good or bad deed, since you do not know what his final action before his death will be. You hope for Allaah’s Mercy for him and you fear for him because of his sins. You do not know what has been destined for him at the time of his death as regards repentance and what Allaah has destined for that time if he dies upon Islaam. You hope for Allaah’s Mercy for him and you fear for him because of his sins.”
***I really think a lot of times we get our emotions and biases and even our prideful intellect into and issue when there is really no argument. Let’s not forget our greates enemy, shaytaan and he is misleading us with our opinions and “feelings” Sometimes I am asked by Muslims , “What is your opinion on such and such” and I respond that I am not a scholar and I do not have opinions. I HEAR and I OBEY (Al Quran) I follow Quran and Sunnah.
Lastly, Imaam Ahmad bin Hanbal, raheemahullaah, states, “And even if a person with his philosophical debate and intellect, even if he ends up at the same end result as the Sunnah, he will not be a person from the Sunnah until he abandons that and submits to the narrations.
May Allah guide all of us, give us patience, purify or intentions and grant us Jannah. I hope you are all in the best of Imaan and health and have a successful Ramadan. Assalamou alaiom wa rahmatullah
Umm Sakina

14 09 2008
Umm Sakina

SubhannaAllah I thought it would automatically link my wordpress, but i guess yall are welcome to see my myspace.

21 09 2008
durrani

I wanted to know something about Imsaak.
Most of my life I’ve lived in Pakistan and there we used to finish eating with the Azan and break the fast with the Azan too.
I moved to Canada 2 yrs ago with my family, here we get the Calender with the timings and it has Imsaak time also and we stop eating at that time (which is 10 min before fajr). This wasn’t so in Pakistan though we also had a calender there but there were no Imsaak times. I’m confused regarding what’s right ?

Another thing, are you saying that the duas ” Wa bisawmi ghadinn nawaiytu min shahri ramadan” and “Allahumma inni laka sumtu wa bika aamantu wa ‘alayka tawakkaltu wa ‘ala rizq-ika aftarthu ” should not be recited ?

Thanks.

21 09 2008
Umm Yusuf

Assalaamu Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

As for imsak, the hadiths are clear on that. The Prophet (saw) said you can eat until the athan for fajr is called. So, clearly we can eat until the fajr athan is called.

As for the duas…

The du’aa that is commonly known is:

“Allaahumma laka sumtu wa ‘ala rizqika aftartu

“O Allaah, for You I have fasted and by Your provision I have broken my fast” narrated by Abu Dawood, 2358. It is a mursal hadeeth so it is considered da’eef (weak). Al-Albaani classed it as da’eef in ben dawwad (510)

The one that is more authentically reported is from the hadith of Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say when breaking his fast:

“Dhahaba al-zama’ wa abtalat al-‘urooq wa thabata al-ajr in sha Allaah

‘Thirst is gone, the veins are moistened and the reward is certain if Allaah wills.’ Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2357; al-Daaraqutni, 25.

Therefore the correct way of breaking the fast is to say Bismillaah when its time for Iftaar and eat a date and drink some water or juice and then make the above mentioned Du’aa narrated by Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him).

Dr Khalid Khan

http://www.drkhalid.co.uk/

http://alqamardesigns.wordpress.com/2008/09/01/correct-duaa-of-iftaar/

21 08 2009
Shahab

Assalaamualaikum,

Thanks for opening our eyes to the true meaning of fasting.

2 09 2009
Hamis Ali

Assalamu Alaikum warahamatul lahi wabarkatuhu, I am very happy with this article and this article improve me alot and all other muslim in the world alhamdullihahi.

Since morning am on the computer checking from one side to another i went for Zuruh prayer i saw the title”common mistake made during ramadan” paste in the Adamawa State university, Mubi “mosque” the more i came back from the mosque i try one i got it am very happy today. Ashara-ruwa lafiya to every muslim in the world.

6 09 2009
Abdur-Rahman Al-Hallak

Assalaamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah,

Jazakumullahukhairan for the article. It has been of a great benefit for all of us. May Allah accept.

Regarding my question: I’ve read a few “ahaadith” that specify a certain to Dua’ that one should say out loud as an intention to fast. As you said above, “Whatever ‘dua’ you may see on some papers or Ramadaan calendars, etc. is a Bid’ah.” I agree with that in principle, but my question is, whats the evidence for that. Is there are source for that statement? Are there commentaries from any Shuyookh or in any book regarding the weakness of those ahaadith (who, why, etc.), and why that action is a bidah? I’ve been looking online for it, but I haven’t seen much published material on it. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Jazakumullahukhairan,

10 09 2009
brother

asalamu3lykoom
i thought the article was great but i sitill dont know alot of things.

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